Tips to Remember During a Divorce

Experiencing a divorce can be stressful. However, being informed, knowing what to expect and preparing for important steps may reduce the emotional burdens. We have compiled some tips to remember throughout the divorce to make the process easier on you.


  • Manage the difficult emotions that come when your relationship is past the point of reconciliation, and seek support, including professional resources, as necessary for your well-being.
  • Collect financial information as soon as you recognize the marriage is not salvageable or if you notice suspicious financial activity is occurring.
  • Keep the best interests of your children in focus at all times.


  • Be honest and accurate in all disclosures, including financial information.
  • Save yourself time and money by cooperating completely with your attorney if information is requested.
  • Advise your attorney of all important developments of which he or she should be aware, such as significant changes like loss of job, newly discovered assets or debts or parent-child issues.
  • Understand the meaning of court orders that restrict or limit behaviors. Do not hesitate to ask your attorney for help in these matters.
  • Be prudent when communicating with your spouse during divorce proceedings. Mistakes can easily be made with emails, texts or on social media. Often these communications can easily be forwarded to opposing counsel, family members and/or friends.
  • Seek settlement for reasons of predictable results and litigation cost-control when your spouse assumes a reasonable position on issues.
  • Develop realistic expectations and/or forecast your financial situation following the dissolution of your marriage.
  • Avoid domestic violence at all times and report incidents promptly if you or your children are the victim of abuse.


  • Continue to keep the best interests of your children in focus.
  • Consult with your legal counsel if circumstances develop regarding enforcement or interpretation of the Divorce Judgement.
  • Remember to keep the emotional health of you and your children as a priority. Divorce is a stressful event for all people involved, so do not hesitate to seek professional help to help work through the mental strain in productive ways.

The legal fees associated with divorce litigation can be high, but remember the overall benefits of achieving the best possible financial outcome when it comes to maintenance, child support and asset division. Also keep in mind the even greater benefits of achieving a fair outcome when it comes to child custody and visitation. These are all long-term considerations depending on the length of the marriage and the age of the children.

The attorneys at the Law Offices of Edward P. Graham, Ltd. in Naperville, Illinois have over twenty-five years’ experience in representing clients in the practice of family law. If you, a family member or a friend could benefit from our experience, please contact us at (630)357-2333 or visit our website at for more information.


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